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New Self Help Book Released By Harris Jensen, MD


By harrisjensen - Posted on 06 January 2009

"The Four Secrets For Successful Living"

Combines The Most Powerful Elements Of Several

Psychotherapy Strategies Into One Powerful Approach (Updated 5/14/09)

by Harris Jensen,MD

Editor, Good Day Journal

(To get the PDF book now, click GET BOOK and go to bottom of the article and click the blue words "The Four Secrets For Successful Living.pdf" to get book, or click the blue audio ".m4a" file, "The Four Secrets -- Preface.m4a, " to hear the book read by the author!  The audio file will start playing shortly, and after the full file is downloaded you can save it to your computer and burn it to a cd and listen to it wherever you want to!  You may be able to go to "file" on your browser and "save page" and save the audio file to your computer.)

Growing up, I had a hard time learning to believe in myself.  Finally, a camp director caught me doing some actions well.  He not only told me I did a "good job" but said this was evidence of continued promise for success.

I had what it took to succeed.

This is the approach used in motivational psychotherapy. Help people see they can generalize from successes in one area to other areas that currently leave them "stuck."

The weakness in that approach is one often needs some sophistication in naming irrational thoughts.  That is the approach used in cognitive behavior therapy.  And sometimes that isn't enough.  In situations involving the need for communication skills, interpesonal therapy can train thos

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I've pulled together these diverse approaches in my book, "The Four Secrets For Successful Living."

Here is how it helps stress managment:  A person let's say comes home and his children are screaming and that gets on his nerves.  Instead of yelling, he sees he's having an emotional response--that's normal and expected--that is the first of four steps in solving problems effectively.  Seeing that, and that emotions don't inform his decisions, he takes the "energy," as it were, from the emotions, and directs that energy to talk to his girlfriend.  "Boy these kids get on my nerves," he self discloses, "but I love you and I love them!  I wonder what we can do. You are good at working with their rascally behavior?"  She suggests they play hide and go seek, a game outside that will redirect the kid's energy, which is up in part because they are frustrated about being inside, and about Dad being at work all day.  He is now at the second step of successful problem solving, the thinking step, and he's gathering information, resisting the urge to go back to the first step, the emotional response step, because that wouldn't bring him any more information.  It's information he needs now to make a well informed decision.  Thanks to his girlfriend's help and her thoughts, he's got that information.  Then he swings into the third step, the action step, and makes a well informed decision that the family can focus on what works for "us," and vote on what we as a family want to do.  He's encouraging "us" thinking, and modeling the four step model.  The kids vote to play...what else was possible?  But the structure of how they relate to others is different.  There is an order and direction here, based on he and his girlfriend working together in a loving way.  The fourth step is observing the situation you started with.  It's changed!  But he is seeing the situation in a new way, informed by his  thinking, guided by his love and devotion for his family, and energized by his emotions--not misguided by them.

Does this make sense?  If so, read the PDF book below!

I am not satisfied with the self help books out there.  After 15 years of work as a psychiatrist, I keep seeing people read books and make the same mistakes.  Whether the mistakes are -- thinking errors, interpersonal skill deficits, communication mistakes, motivation problems--the books just are not communicating well enough.  So I've just simply pulled together the very best of all those books and put them in one.

I think alot of self help books are hopelessly boring.

No color pictures!  No sound!  No drawings!  No color drawings! My pdf book has lots of color illustrations.  And some books have no CD audio book...hello isn't this the internet era where multimedia approaches help people learn everything from software to meditation?

So I have added an audio book version...and an audio and PDF versions of the book are  available here for free at the bottom of this article.  Click "read more" at the end of the article here, then go to the bottom of the article and you will see the .pdf book, "The Four Secrets For Successful Living.pdf."  Click the .pdf file to download it.  It has dozens and dozens of color pictures to help you learn key concepts! 

Then click the audio files and download them...they may start playing in a minute or less after clicking them...a full download may take several minutes or longer.   The preface of the book took about 25 minutes to read.  Then, once the audio file has fully downloaded, save that audio file to your computer, if your software permits that.  At any rate, open up the .pdf file and move forward to the preface to the book.  Then play the audio file "The Four Secrets--Preface" and  you can listen to me read the book while you read it. 

I think people learn best from both reading and listening to a book being read.  That way you get both the auditory and visual information at the same time.  I think some people learn more effectively if they get both auditory and visual information at the same time.  At any rate, do as you wish, and hope you enjoy the pdf and audio book.

As an added note, the clock face used in the book is available for download as a jpeg file at the end of the story, here.  Just click on the blue link for "clock face" and you got it!

Have a good day!

 

 

  

HJ

 

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